Toxic people are individuals that you allow to use up your positive energy and taint your ability to excel to your fullest potential. However, toxic people are actually in your life from the time you are born. They may be your family members, friends of family members, parents, schoolmates, best friends, boyfriends, girlfriends etc. These people crowd your space, take up your valuable time (needy), are envious, manipulative, controlling, and simply negative. The reason most people will not recognize these individuals is because of young age, lack of wisdom, or not being equipped with the proper tools needed for recognizing them.
Most children grow up with parents or guardians who warn them to stay away from toxic people. At this point in life, the child feels as if they are losing friends because they lack personal life experiences. Unfortunately, it is not until later in life that the young adult will figure out their own true worth. It is then, they will start to understand life would be better off without toxic people in it. Why is this? Typically because it is human nature to learn most lessons through personal experience, and not word of mouth. Just think of how simple life would be if we all listened beforehand. It would save many people from unnecessary heartache and pain.
Obviously, personal experience is not the issue at stake, it is how you respond to the experience that will impact your life. For instance, if you are a motivated individual who likes helping others, you should to be very careful not to get sucked into spending all of your time on needy people. Here are a few ways to identify a needy individual.
- They will usually call you for every little thing (can't seem to think on their own)
- They will almost always have an issue that calls for your advice or attendance (looking for a savior in you)
- They never seem to be motivated unless they are competing or being pepped
- There is always a very good excuse for why they cannot meet you half way (manipulative)
- They are argumentative and dismissive when things do not turn out their way (controlling)
- They are never really happy for your success (envious)
Of course, these are just a few examples, but if you are experiencing any of these issues listed, I would urge you to step back and evaluate how much you can handle. You need to figure if the situation is worth the extra energy. The bottom line is you cannot save everyone. You can try... but in the end who will save you?
Final Thought Do not compromise your health, wealth or growth by keeping toxic people in your life. The lighter your load, the easier it will be for you to climb the ladder of success. I am not implying that you should get rid of any and everyone who is imperfect in your life. However, I am implying that you should think about eliminating people who weigh you down, make you unhappy, and add stress to your life on a constant basis. You are worth more than that! Once you cut these ties, you will began to see a change in your level of calamity, focus, motivation, and selection of people you allow in your personal circle.
Remember that you cannot move forward if you are always looking behind you! Be blessed!
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